Nobody Likes A Negative Nancy

Six months ago, the company I work for [a small, boutique benefits broker in Sacramento] was purchased by a huge corporate conglomerate. When the purchase initially happened, I was extremely apprehensive on how the merger would go. All of my colleagues and myself had grown accustomed to the close-knit family vibe that had kept us all together for so long. How would becoming a corporation change us?

Being the stress ball that I am, I of course over analyzed the entire situation – made assumptions about the company because of all of the horror stories I’d heard from other companies who had gone from small and family-owned to corporate. Turns out, I had absolutely no reason to be anxious. The merger has gone pretty stinkin’ well [with the exception of the technology upgrade, which caused all of us a month of unnecessary panic during an extremely busy time of year], and has actually opened a lot of new doors for our company and the industry that we’re in.

A recent implementation that was released a couple of weeks ago is something called “Every Monday Matters.” The premise of it is to change the philosophy of a Monday. Most of us hate Mondays because it means we have a full work week ahead. Five grueling days of stress, spreading ourselves thin, and anxiously awaiting Friday afternoon at 5:00. My company wants to change how we look at our week – instead of seeing it as daunting and exhausting, they are encouraging us to see the positives and the opportunities that lie ahead of us every Monday. This week’s EMM is totally up my alley – it’s called “Flip the Script.” Turn that frown upside down. Make something negative into a positive.

We all know somebody who struggles to see the world in a positive way. These people always seem to be ill, injured, or down on their luck – as the article refers to them, people who always see the glass as half empty. I have a friend like this. I love her because she’s my friend, and when she’s actually able to see the positive in life, she’s such a fun person to be around. But I have such a hard time maintaining the friendship because her negativity is suffocating. She constantly complains about her job – how much it sucks, how lazy her coworkers are, how rude the customers are, etc. She also complains about how she still lives with her parents, how her dating life sucks, how she doesn’t get along with her sister. The list goes on. I’ve expelled so much energy on trying to put a positive spin on these things for her. “Well, at least you’re healthy, you have a job, and a roof over your head.” It seems to go on deaf ears, though, because there’s always something to counteract my positivity once again.

But haven’t we all had days, weeks, or even months like this? Where we find ourselves in a funk and just can’t seem to snap out of it? Depression runs in my family, and I can absolutely say that I have had weeks where it took every ounce of effort for me to get out of bed, get ready for the day, and go to work. Working out didn’t help, eating right didn’t help, even venting about it didn’t help. It almost seemed to make it worse, believe it or not.

I love today’s message because it gives recognition to the fact that this is normal – we all experience rough times in our lives. But it’s up to us to change how certain instances and emotions effect our day-to-day lives. When you’re feeling down on yourself, acknowledge the negativity, and then release it from your being. Focus on something positive to counteract that negativity.

Negative – That conversation went so badly. The client was so upset and angry. My boss is going to be very disappointed in me.
Positive – That was a rough situation, but I handled it as best I could, and now have the knowledge to approach it differently in the future. My boss may be disappointed, but will understand.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the Debbie Downer moments of life because we want to feel sorry for ourselves. By changing our frame of mind, we can cause a ripple effect – in a positive way. Have you ever noticed how exhausting it is to be around somebody with constant negativity? How it puts a damper on everybody and everything? The same goes for being positive – the more we send good vibes to each other and remain uplifted, the more that will spread to those around us.

Today is Monday, and today we are changing our mindset on how we look at the weeks ahead. Each week we should focus on three things that are going to make our lives better and more positive.

I love Mondays because:
It’s a fresh start to a new week. Any speed bumps or tough situations I had to deal with last week are in the past. Today is a new day, this week is a new week, and there’s nothing but blue skies ahead.
We get catered lunch at the office. I don’t have to worry about packing a lunch, or going out and spending money on food. We are generously provided a good quality lunch to start our week.
It’s a busy day at the office. I’m not just chained to my desk all day long – we have lots of meetings and plenty of social time.
I have personal training after work. I have a great workout to look forward to, which sets the precedent for the rest of my week. I get to start it off with a bang, and keep my motivation going through the week.

I am such an advocate for keeping a positive outlook on life, and I absolutely feel that it’s important to spread the word. Reassess how you go about your days and how you feel about your life. I promise you will feel better, and so will those around you. Negativity breeds negativity, but positivity does just the same! Even if you can’t seem to flip anybody else’s perspective, at least make the effort to do it for you.